Top 20 Self-Defeating Beliefs by Mandy Evans

Top 20 Self-Defeating Beliefs

Check the beliefs that apply to you:

	1.	I'm not good enough to be loved.
	2.	No matter what I do, I should be doing something else.
	3.	I can tell what will happen by what has happened.
	4.	If it hasn't happened yet, it never will.
	5.	If I were happy, I wouldn't do anything.
	6.	I upset people.
	7.	Asking for what you want is scary, very scary.
	8.	I should have worked this out by now.
	9.	If you know what I'm really like, you won't want me.
	10.	Better stop wanting; if you get your hopes up, you'll just get hurt.
	11.	If I fail, I should feel bad for a very long time and then be really scared to try again.
	12.	If there's something you don't like about yourself, (it's best to) hide it and hate it.
	13.	Sex is dirty and nasty; save it for the one you love.
	14.	I can't trust myself.
	15.	I don't know what I want.
	16.	If I feel good now, I'll be all alone.
	17.	If I'm grown up no one will ever help me. I'll be all alone if I really need help.
	18.	The one I'm with now is the only one who would ever want me and I'm not sure how long I can fool him/her.
	19.	Everyone else knows something that's wrong with me and they won't tell me.
	20.	I want bad things for myself.

WHAT YOU CAN DO ABOUT THEM?

For each belief you checked, ask yourself these three questions:
1. Why do I believe that?
2. What might happen if I didn't believe that?
3. Is that true?

If you checked more than three beliefs, you owe it to yourself to discover your Emotional Options!

by Mandy Evans
Belief list copyright © 1992 Mandy Evans

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